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"You can have intimacy without love, but you cannot have true love without intimacy." This is the hard truth I have been teaching men for over a decade based on my experience with couples. I created I A M at the encouragement of friends to help men realize this and understand that ALL women seek an Intimate connection to a mate male or female. Sex for women is seldom a physical act (unless acting) and can be uninspiring or even negative without establishing an intimate connection. Conversely being simple beasts men seek sex. Sex is part of the intimacy equation but by no means think it is all of it. The purpose of the I A M isn't to belittle or shame you. You may have to fight your ego a little and admit possibly a few things to yourself but I promise you that you will recover and be a better man for it.
What is Intimacy to Women?
Intimacy involves feelings of emotional closeness and connectivity with another person. Intimate relationships are often characterized by attitudes of mutual trust, caring, and acceptance. Our sexual activities can take place with others where there can be varying degrees of intimacy. So work on your skills, increase your knowledge and use both to help establish a stronger intimate connection with her.
What is intimacy to Men ?
Intimacy is a foreign word to the majority of men. It's often confused by men as being just another word for "sex". Men do not need an intimate connection to inspire sex. Men can base a decision for having sex on very few criteria. The first is "visual". Men are 100% visually stimulated. Second is "risk". Men evaluate briefly but with little to no concern as to the downside of engaging in sex. The third is the "exit strategy". Men sadly also consider their way out on their way in as a factor for continuing in. Also, known as the hook-up culture.
Changing the mindset of men regarding intimacy is a monumental task. It's one goal of the I A M to do so. The real intimate connection women desire requires this shift in mindset.
what do we really know ?
Articles in Men’s Health and Cosmopolitan DO NOT address the real issue which is men lacking usable knowledge of female sexual anatomy and lacking of fine motor skills to compete with the billion dollar sex toy market.